Blogging on the bed with tea and dog

New year, new me and all that right? Well not quite. I don't really intend on setting myself proper resolutions, I only end up forgetting all about it, so what is the point. Plus we are all guilty of the same old same old, go to the gym, eat better etc. that clearly never happens otherwise it wouldn't be a resolution Every. Single. Year!

I had a bit of a rubbish day at work a little while ago and I was trying to be positive and happy about everything and I ended up manically writing out a post that was essentially all my feelings at that moment in time.

I left it alone for a while not even really wanting to read back over it just knowing I felt better having written everything down. But when I did finally go back it read kinda like resolutions and goals sooo here we have it!

Taking Pride in What I Do

I find that quite often I feel a bit silly saying I blog, or if someone says they were looking at my Instagram. I guess that comes the popular misconception that when someone is a bit shy or reserved  that they love themselves and are stuck up.. I apparently give off this vibe and obviously a whole website dedicated to me, myself & I probably doesn't help with view.

But I have decided to take some pride in myself and what I do and already it has given me a sense of motivation. I am still not completely on track with my blog in the way I used to be, I used to post at least once every week but that just doesn't happen anymore and to be honest I don't want it to. I would rather the posts I do write to be authentic and true to me rather than just chatting about random crap to meet my own demands of one post per week minimum. So yeh, I may post infrequently and my following may be affected by that, but at least when I do post, it will be about something I have loved! 

Contacting Brands & PR 
My main thing I am feeling really proud about is reaching out to brands and PR for the first time and being successful. This I am sure is no biggy to many but was a big step for me I always felt I could never do. I have done this a grand total of 4 times now - resulting in 2 collaborations and 2 invites to bloggers events - not bad ehhh! So I am hoping to continue in this line and hopefully work with a few more brands and attend some more events to meet all you lovely lot! 

I am feeling pretty motivated to do a media kit so that is another goal to add to my little list for this year. This kind of links back to contacting the Brands & PR, I want to look professional and I suddenly realised my blogging stats are not something to be ashamed of.

I love the open honesty of some people Twitter about their stats, from bloggers I love and read their content all the time & I realise I have the same stats as they do.

Now I am not trying to compare at all but it was so nice and refreshing after putting myself down for so long to see that I wasn't doing as bad as I thought. Just for a little confidence boost to myself that yeh, I am in a way, up there with some of my favourite bloggers & I see that as something to be proud of. 

Now Instagram. If you don't get this horrible 'ergh' feeling of complete and utter frustration then you need to be sharing your secrets with me. I am in two minds about this at the moment. Partly feeling like I am going to up my game and sort it out so that I don't feel shitty every time I lose a follower.. or 50! But also that I am going to care a little less about it and not let it get to me so much! 

Bit of a contradictory one but there you have it! 

I am really not the type of person that wants their life to be ruled by social media and I really feel like this is why I'm perhaps not quite as far along as I want to be, but I like my down time away from it. 
I like going home after work and doing absolutely nothing. 
I like going out and not sharing every single detail on social media. 
I like enjoying the moment whilst I am out, with the people I am with rather than trying to get the perfect picture to put on Instagram only to lose a couple followers that apparently are offended by my cup of tea!

Okay slight manic there but you get my point!

If you aren't offended by tea - you can follow me here!

Basically, my 2018 goals are simply to take more pride in my blog, pride in the content I create for it and pride in the fact that even if I don't have millions of followers, I have a few that are interested  in what I write and what I wear. And even if I don't, I am doing it for me no one else. 

What are your blogging goals this year? 

Que the typical start to a blog post.. Blogging & a full time job just do not mix well! It is becoming soooo hard to stay on top of everything whilst working full time but also not wanting your weekends to be totally consumed by blogging alone. Like the whole process, getting ready, taking the pictures, editing them and then finally writing out the post can just take up so much time!

And don't even get me started on the whole lighting sitch going down now lately making everything even harder. This particular post has been a long time in the making its just taken me foreverrrr because of all of the above!

Anyway to the point of the actual post..
Cari's Closet Adele Dress

Cari's Closet - The Adele Dress

The Adele Dress - Cari's Closet

The Adele Dress

A little while ago now I was lucky enough to be gifted a dress of my choice from Cari's Closet. So I had a look through possibly every single thing on their website and narrowed it down to 5 dresses that I liked and seriously struggled to choose from.

After sending all 5 round to my mum and my sister getting everyones opinions we all agreed on the Adele dress which defo turned out to be a good choice as only a few days later I saw it trending on facebook with so many people saying about how much they loved it.. and I had one on its way to me at that very moment!

I have to say as a predominantly fashion blogger it was so exciting to collaborate with a fashion brand for once! But it wasn't without its worries, is it going to fit, will it look right on me, what if I hate it but still have to post it up online..

But it was all without cause because it arrived and I bloody love it! The intricate detailing of the lace is so lovely, plus with the sheer material underneath it is just so beautiful. I feel like I can I can dress it up or down depending on the occasion - which if you know me is always a plus as I'm all about versatility! 

I went through a phase when I was younger of wearing blue all the time, and putting on this dress I remembered why I used to love it so much. It is that perfect royal blue shade, thats not to bright but still brightens up the wardrobe enough! 

I was also really pleased with the cut as I usually struggle a bit with dresses,  I have the annoying problem of if my boobs fit in 9 times out of 10 its too big on my waist and visa versa. So I tend to always go for that stretchy jersey type material that either stretches or just pings back to shape but not this time! & it paid off because it fit perfectly!

Anywayss, I know there are lots of glitz and glam dresses that can be worn over the Christmas period but for me this is looking like a favourite for those day when sequins and glitter are just a tad too much!

& of course I had to 'me' it up with a leather jacket because since getting a new one for my birthday.. I haven't really taken it off!

What do you think of this latest look? And what are your go to Christmas ootd's? 

Glitter, who doesn't love it. And beaut underwear who doesn't love that too am I right? Put two and two together and we have my new Glimmer Bralet from Burnt Jasmine that err yeh I'm defo in love with!!

I have to say as much as I love them, I am always a little bit skeptical about bralets, like they only ever really look good on ladies of the smaller boob variety & that is not me. They tend not to really hold you right where you definitely need a little bit of holding. But that doesn't always stop me from buying them, I just tend to use bralets as my stay at home underwear. 

But I have to say this bralet from Burnt Jasmine was very good in this department, its not your standard over the shoulder bra but more like a bikini going around the neck, which kind of meant it gave me a much better hold with a cut like this. Plus the added bonus is that all items are handmade, so you can message and discuss sizing options, so you know you are going to get what works for you! 

But anyway putting the cut aside, it is glittery and amazing and when I wear it I definitely feel a little bit of a diva!!!

Head on over to Burnt Jasmine to nab your own amazing handmade set like mine!
And even better - you can get 20% off with my code Abi20 on all purchases through the Asos store!

Go go go!

Just a quickie post to say I am doing a GIVEAWAY

So a couple days ago I realised it was my blogs 2nd birthday woo! So I thought doing a little giveaway was the best way to celebrate its success. Don't get me wrong it hasn't quite taken off the way I initally wanted it to but I am happy and proud of the way its gone and I hope all my follows are liking it too! 

Soo down to the good stuff, what is actually in the bundle. We have: 

- Urban Decay Moondust Eyeshadow Palette
- Real Techniques Sculpting Set with Stand 
- Barry M Matte Me Up Lip Kit in Prestige: Liquid Lip Paint & Liner 
- Garnier Moisture Bomb Tissue Mask
- Smashbox L.A Lights Highlighter 
- Eyelure London No 117 False Eyelashes 
- Clinique Chubby Lash Mascara
- Dirty Works Manicure Set

Pretty much an all rounder because I got over excited and couldn't stop picking random bits up to include! 

Enter via Rafflecopter: 

a Rafflecopter giveaway

All you blondes out there, this one is for us! It is pretty much an age old problem of being blonde. You've had you hair done, it has taken you forever to get to that perfect shade  (like seriously why does this take so long), you've got your hair flicks and swishes down to a T and then IT happens. In random patches the colour starts to fade and turns that ginger, brassy, almost strawberry blonde colour. And if you are anything like me, the meltdown follows.

So after many meltdowns and attempts to patiently wait it out until my next hair appointment I got googling and experimenting until I finally found the one.

Basically halle-friggin-lujah for the babe of all babes Lee Stafford who swoops on in and saves the day with his Bleach Blondes purple toner. I have on and off for years used all different toners and shampoos and all the colour revival treatments you can think of and never really rated any because I just couldn't see a difference.

To be fair to all those other brands I don't think I was using them properly. I wouldn't consistently use them, so I guess its my own fault really.

However Lee Stafford is the first one I have had where I have noticed the difference immediately! And oh ma gaaaaad am I loving it or what! I literally slather my hair in it probably using wayyy to much but I don't care if its working! I have started to use this every time I wash my hair now so the colour does seem to be persistently where I want it to be! Woooooo!

Since trying out Lee Stafford I have again retried a couple other toners too like Charles Worthington and John Frieda which have also been effective. I would say I have't noticed an immediate difference with these one like I have the Lee Stafford but thats not to say they don't work as after a few washes you can see the difference. 

If you aren't really a fan of toners or maybe because they can be really expensive, an alternative that I have also found is again Lee Stafford, his purple toned Bleach Blonde Hot Shots. These really are amazing! Again an immediate difference when you are in dire need of a hair rejuvenation. It basically gives you the result of the shampoo & conditioner toners do after a fair few washes, but immediately. 

The Hot Shots I like to save for every now and then, maybe if I have an event coming up but with no time to get my hair done or if its just in the middle of appointments and you don't want to muck up the whole schedule. These are a great quick fix! But again these are fairly expensive and they only come in packs of three so I like to use mine wisely! 

Do you have a colour rejuvenating suggestion for all us blondes? Or any other hair colour too?! 
I'm always looking to try out new (and hopefully cheaper) ways of getting and keeping the perfect hair colour so any suggestions would be amazing!!

Also as a little side note, I am really feeling this ridiculous algorithm Instagram has forced on us. So if you are feeling kind and want to show some love or give me a follow please just follow the link below & leave your links in the comments I'd love to follow back!

 Alluring title like I have all the answers but really I am asking them. 

I love flicking though my instagram and seeing all these amazing shots that other bloggers get or all these different locations they go for a full on shoot and I just think HOW?!

I try to find myself a good little spot because I get seriously bored of the same old same old of my bedroom or my back garden and I think ooh yeah nice and quiet we can just get on with it. Anddd I start to do maaa thaaaang strutting around and getting some good stuff and then I spot them.. the dreaded 'other people'. I hate it, I feel myself like freeze up thinking what must they think of me that I absolutely love myself or something and I just panic and want to go home straight away. 

I see so many pictures of bloggers in the street with other people in the background behind them and I just don't know how they do it! 

 Do they just not care that there are other people around that stop and watch? Or is it just about finding a really good secluded spot?
What do you do?

I really want to up my game with the pictures I get but I feel like I need to get over this insecurity of people watching me first because I ruin it for myself. 
So if you have any tips please help me and share!!

Update: I wrote out this post and then mentally prepared myself to go outside and get some decent pictures and what happens it rains! Gaadamnit! Looks like bedroom pictures will have to do once again!

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